by Finding You is finding me…
The Bible has all the answers to our questions about Christian marriage but sometimes we can throw Bible verses in our spouses face to try to control, change your convict them. This method does not work! This is like parenting your marriage.
If you really want your marriage to work, a decision needs to be made that your spouse does not owe you anything. As long as you have expectations and standards for your spouse to keep up with, you will never experience or give the unconditional love that God designed marriage to have.
Ephesians 5:21 – 33 says:
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.
He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body.31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Shower down all your passion, love, gratitude and energy that you have for Christ on your wife or husband. Christ gave Himself up for us. We are to put our spouses first out of reverence for God even if they don’t deserve it.
Be willing to do this for your spouse whether they deserve it or not.
As a Christian it is our responsibility to reflect and demonstrate God’s unconditional love for us upon our spouses.
Jesus paid for all our sin when He died on the cross for us. There’s nothing we can give back to repay Him. Our debts have been paid in full. We can take this same perspective and apply it to our relationships.
This is our hope:
When we apply God’s principles to our marriage it opens up opportunities for God to create the potential for a marriage of unconditional love. That’s an invitation for God to do the impossible with your marriage today.
1 John 4 verses 7 – 11 reads:
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”