Family God’s Way

Family God's Way

Family God’s Way

by Finding You is finding me…

The Lord should be our home builder. He is the Architect and Designer for family life. The Lord lays out the blue prints for your family through His Word. We need the Lord as the Architect and Builder of our homes otherwise we are building our homes in vain.

Psalm 127: 1 reads: “Unless the Lord builds the house, they labour in vain who build it.”

Mark 3:25 reads: “Similarly, a family splintered by feuding will fall apart.”

The building of a physical house takes much labour to complete and so does the building of your spiritual family home.  Many Christian families do not labour for their family unit yet they attend church every Sunday and partake in several ministries while their family is falling apart. Somehow we have missed the mark and we are not building our family with the Lord as we ought to.

How does the Lord build your family home?

Through His Word:

Through His Word He lays the foundation for your lives. Let the Word of the Lord be your foundation.

Matthew 7:24 reads: 

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock.”

If you build your house upon solid rock, when the storms of life come by, your house will still be standing because you have put God’s Word into practice.

How can we build our houses on solid rock? Well we have to be doers of the Word and not hearers only. If we are going to be used of God to lay a foundation of spiritual stability in our homes, we need to walk according to God’s Word.

When we respond to God’s Word, we will want to believe in, count on, act upon, walk in and practice it.

Another way the Lord builds our homes is through His Church:

The Lord uses His church (His Body) to build your spiritual home. It’s the fullness of Him. The church is where the fullness of life is learnt. Bring your family up in the church of Jesus Christ and be a part of it. God wants to build our lives in fullness of Him. He wants to use the church in our lives and our lives in the church.

Ephesians 1: 22 -23

“And God put everything under His feet and made Him head over everything for the church, which is His body, the fullness of Him who fills all in all.”

Ask the Lord for His guidance and wisdom. Put your trust in Him totally. Our understanding is not enough to lean on and keep us upright through battles. God promises to direct your paths in difficulty, in crisis or perhaps through new opportunities. You can certainly trust God’s wisdom and guidance through His word.

Proverbs 3: 5-6

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.”

God builds our homes through His Grace: 

Acts 20:32 reads: 

“And now, brethren, I commend you to God, and to the word of his grace, which is able to build you up, and to give you an inheritance among all them which are sanctified.”

It is by grace of God that we have been born into the family of God. We should want everyone in our household to receive grace, to know it, to feel it and be shown it. How do you live and grow in the grace of God? It’s through humility.

James 4:6 says that God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. Do not build your house with pride and self-sufficiency. Walk humbly among one another.

God builds our homes through faith:

Romans 5:2 reads: 

“through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God.”

Faith accesses grace. Faith takes grace as a resource to live by. Faith is not a work but it leads to the mighty works of God. Faith depends on the work of the Lord. Grace is for growing and He wants us to grow our homes in His grace.

2 Peter 3:18 reads: 

“Rather, you must grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. All glory to him, both now and forever! Amen.”



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by Finding You is finding me…

The Bible has all the answers to our questions about Christian marriage but sometimes we can throw Bible verses in our spouses face to try to control, change your convict them. This method does not work! This is like parenting your marriage.

If you really want your marriage to work, a decision needs to be made that your spouse does not owe you anything. As long as you have expectations and standards for your spouse to keep up with, you will never experience or give the unconditional love that God designed marriage to have.

Ephesians 5:21 – 33 says:

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.

He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body.31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Shower down all your passion, love, gratitude and energy that you have for Christ on your wife or husband. Christ gave Himself up for us. We are to put our spouses first out of reverence for God even if they don’t deserve it.

Be willing to do this for your spouse whether they deserve it or not.

As a Christian it is our responsibility to reflect and demonstrate God’s unconditional love for us upon our spouses.

Jesus paid for all our sin when He died on the cross for us. There’s nothing we can give back to repay Him. Our debts have been paid in full. We can take this same perspective and apply it to our relationships.

This is our hope:

When we apply God’s principles to our marriage it opens up opportunities for God to create the potential for a marriage of unconditional love. That’s an invitation for God to do the impossible with your marriage today.

1 John 4 verses 7 – 11 reads:

“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”



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Free Audio Book Giveaway

Change Business Career with God

5 lucky readers stand the chance to win this awesome giveaway.

It’s a free Audio Book read by the author himself, Michael Dean Thomas.

This “Change Business Career with God” audio book will help you get out of the purposeless cycle that we all tend to wander in and out of in our careers.

Winners will be announced on the 20th August. To enter simply comment below and 5 random names will be chosen 

Change Business Career by Michael Dean Thomas


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Heavenly Thinking

Heavenly Thinking

Heavenly Thinking

by Finding You is finding me…

We are capable of controlling what we think about. Have you ever thought about what you are thinking about?

We don’t think to think what we are thinking about.

Pay attention to the thoughts that get into your head early in the morning. Learn to think like God thinks and talk like He talks. This can change your life radically.

As believers, the main goal for us should be to think the way God thinks. Your thoughts affect your walk with God.

Our behaviour is a product of our thoughts.

Out of the heart the mouth shall speak. Do your thoughts line up with God’s word? Are your thoughts fruitful? Do you have thoughts of love, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness and self-control? Or do you have thoughts of hate, anger, unforgiveness, strife and pride?

We are to guard our hearts above all else for everything we do shall flow from it. 

Pay attention to the thoughts that pop into your head and be mindful to lead your thoughts and keep them heavenly minded.

Do you realise that God thinks about you all the time? Never in your life has God had one bad thought about you. Be aware that your thoughts aren’t leading you away from God. Don’t shut Jesus out from working on your heart and on your thoughts. Set your mind on heavenly treasures or another way of putting it is to set your mind on the things above.

Jeremiah 29:11

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

Psalm 40:5

“Many, O Lord my God, are Your wonderful works which You have done; And Your thoughts toward us cannot be recounted to You in order; If I would declare and speak of them, they are more than can be numbered.”

God’s thoughts about us are so many that you can’t even put a number on them. He thinks about you all the time. He has plans to prosper you, to give you a hope and a future. God’s got you on His mind right now. How awesome. God thinks you’re wonderful!

Psalm 139:17

“How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand;”



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A Matter of the Heart

A Matter of the Heart

A Matter of the Heart 

by Finding You is finding me…

Our hearts can be the driver seat for our life. It’s where our emotions, feelings and instincts come from. What does the Bible  say about our hearts? There are four key verses pertaining to our hearts:

Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

The heart is the source of whatever affects our life and our character. In this verse God is counselling us to keep—that is to, guard, preserve, and to maintain—our hearts. Why are we to do this? Because Jeremiah 17 verse 9 says that our hearts are deceitful.

Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things,
And desperately wicked;
Who can know it? “

We need to keep our minds from becoming carnal because this is enmity against God. This means that we have been born of the Spirit of God but we are not to walking in the Spirit. It is very easy to become defiled and backslide into old habits of sin.

Romans 8:7 “Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be.”

One thing you should not do is follow your fickle heart. Follow Jesus whole heartily as He will lead your heart. Is there hope for our wicked hearts? Yes! Allow Jesus to create in you a new pure heart and renew your spirit. Don’t allow your sinful heart to lead you astray.

Ezekiel 36: 26  “A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh.”

Store up treasures in Heaven. Rather live for Heavenly things instead of things that waste away. Set your heart on a course to heaven. Guide your heart, don’t follow it.

Matthew 6:21 says “For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.”





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by Finding You is finding me…

When we surrender ourselves to Jesus completely, He empowers us to do His will. He is the Almighty and Sovereign Lord. The things God has called us to accomplish will be completed. No plan can succeed without Him and no plan can fail with Him. 

Deutoronomy 31:8 says: 

“The LORD Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you or forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”

All the things that God has done through you, showcases His faithfulness. Yesterday will never be the same because what He does tomorrow will be better. Isaiah 43:18 encourages us to “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing.” 

God does not want you to go back to the way things were – to worry over yesterday nor worry about tomorrow. It’s easy to get caught up in thoughts like: “What will the future bring?” “What should I do now?” How will things last?”

Jeremiah 17:7-8 offers this encouragement:

“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in Him. He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream and does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”

As Christians and worshipers of Jesus, we are to follow Him first and to be ready to do His will. Christ is our reward and He is enough. Keep your eyes fixed on Christ and allow Him to provide the right steps to take in your walk with Him.

God understands our thoughts better than we do. He desires us to put our trust in Him. He provides for our needs; He covers us with His protection. If you are struggling to surrender your life situations to God then pray and ask God to teach you His ways and to follow His paths instead of your own.

Psalm 86:10 – 13 says:

For You are great and do marvelous deeds; You alone are God. Teach me Your way, Lordthat I may rely on Your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear Your Name. I will praise You, Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify Your name forever. For great is Your love toward me; You have delivered me from the depths, from the realm of the dead.

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What is your calling?

What is your calling?

by Finding You is finding me…

Do you ever get the feeling that you are called to something bigger or something special in your life but you haven’t figured out what your calling is yet? If you are feeling stuck right now you probably want to find the solution to having a breakthrough immediately.

Sometimes when we get called by God to bigger things we are expected to have all the answers for our friends and family members. This is one way we are blocked from our calling as it makes us feel limited when in actually fact we serve a limitless God.

We are expected to guarantee our calling along with an expected outcome. But you do not have to have all the answers first in order to pursue your call. You are called to Jesus and He is the answer.

Jesus calls us to one simple task summed up with two words “Follow Me.”

Jesus said in Matthew 4 verse 19 “Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.”

It is okay to not have a detailed itinerary of why and what you will be doing as you walk in obedience to your calling.  Jesus will reveal His plans for you step by step.

Proverbs 16:9 says:

“A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps.”

If you want to find out what you are called to do by God then you have to firstly spend time in God’s word. He is your breakthrough.

By reading your Bible you can examine your life and determine whether there is sin, rebellion or an error that’s blocking you from a breakthrough. You could be allowing distractions to distract you from your tasks at hand or you could be following the wrong advice instead of getting clarity from God’s word. Ask yourself whether or not you lack commitment to follow your calling. Do you have a habit, temptation or a desire that plagues your thoughts? Do you allow yourself to feel vulnerable instead of embracing what God wants to bring into your life?

Ask God today to give you the heart and strength to move forward today.

God’s word is a firm foundation for us to stand. He is forever faithful and true! After all He promises to prosper us and to give us hope and a future.

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When Marriage isn’t working

When Marriage isn't working

When Marriage isn’t working

by Finding You is finding me…

Marriage is like a car…if you don’t maintain it starts to deteriorate over time and break down.

When you are married all of us approach marriage with a box full of desires and dreams.  Some of our God given dreams and desires are legitimate. Many of the things you dream about shouldn’t be ignored and decided that they are bad. Examples of God given desires could be that you want to be respected as a man, to be cherished as a woman, the desire for companionship, to feel accepted, the desire for love and intimacy, the desire to be understood and appreciated, the desire to be listened to and taken care of.

These desires are legitimate but the minute you take any given desire whether good or bad and place it on your spouse it becomes an expectation. When this happens something happens to the love…you can’t express it or recognise it anymore because now you are simply trying to raise your performance to the level set by your spouse.

We get married with a vision of what we expect of each other… it’s a box full of desires.  All these desires have one thing in common….it’s all about you and your desires as soon as it becomes expectations. This is when the dynamic of the marriage is instantly changed. It becomes a collision of desires. Trying to live up to your spouses expectations is difficult because you are made to be you.

It’s very easy for me to be me and it is very easy for you to be you. But it very difficult for you to be your spouse and it’s very difficult for your spouse to be you. It takes no effort to be you.

It is terribly stressful to live up to someone’s expectations and to conform to become someone else for the sake of keeping the peace. This is unhealthy compromise. Emotionally, mentally and physically you begin to unravel as your marriage unravels too.

Compromise says okay you do your part, I’ll do my part…the problem with this is that the focus of your concern is being committed to the marriage instead of the person you married. Marriage is the description, it’s not the goal.

The first thing to go in this type of marriage is romance trust and intimacy…when you settle for compromise your marriage has become a contract instead of a covenant. It’s just another way of managing your expectations. It’s not Biblical. What God intended for you to experience in marriage you will never experience because it’s all about your expectations being met.

As long as you are dumping your desires on each other and expectations you move your relationship to a debt and debtor relationship.  

All of us can build a strong convincing case as to why our marriage isn’t working. Like feeling you are justified in feeling the way you do. There’s no margin for unconditional love when you are expecting your spouse to break even or be up to par. There’s no credit for loving your wife or husband. You are simply just meeting their expectations.

The potential for expressing, receiving and giving unconditional love goes straight out the door. 

As long as you do everything right…everything is peaceful but there’s not a whole lot of love. And if you do something wrong you get some personalized attention which is usually negative. Nobody gets credit with negative attention, nobody feels loved either.

We don’t express gratitude to things that we have come to expect.  As long as your desires become expectations your marriage will continue to erode and wear down.

Imagine for a moment where marriage would have no expectations. You could actually begin to satisfy those dreams and desires for your spouse instead of having to live up to expectations. This fuels intimacy and romance then marriage becomes a covenant instead of a contract just how God designed it to be.

What does your spouse owe you?

Men, what does your wife owe you?

Wife, what does your husband owe you?

Until you know these answers to these questions you will never have the marriage God intended you to have


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When a Friend Disappoints You

When a Friend Disappoints You

When a Friend Disappoints You

by Finding You is finding me…

When a friend disappoints you just remember this Bible verse:

Psalm 103:8

“The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in mercy.”

How do you deal with people who disappoint you? Remember that the Lord is compassionate, gracious, slow to anger and abounding in mercy….

“Abounding” means “filled to the very brim with.” How can we be filled with such abounding love for one another?

John 15:13 says:

“This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends…. This I command you, that you love one another.”

If we abide in Christ’s love we can love one another.

1 John 4:7 says:

“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.”

Romans 5:8 says:

“But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

In John 13:35 Jesus said that others would know that we are His disciples by our love for one another. Here, He ties our ability to bear fruit with His command that we love one another. As people see the love between Christians, they will be drawn to the source of our love, our Savior who gave Himself for us on the cross.

God’s standard of living is based on His standard of loving. He showed His love for us by dying on the cross.

If you’re not loving the way Jesus loved you’re not living the life Jesus lived.

He loved unconditionally. Sometimes we experience disappointments with friends and family members that could cause us to become hard, bitter, unforgiving and unloving.

But this is not what Jesus wants of us…whoever loves is born of God. I believe this is how we are able to love unconditionally.

When all is said and done you will know Jesus to the level you love and live like Jesus.

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Changing your life for the better

 Changing your life for the better

by Finding You is finding me…

Sometimes you just come across events in your life that just aren’t by accident. I call it divine intervention and it usually comes just at the right time. Never to early and never to late!

So what is this life changing event I came across. Well I came across an old friend of mine on Facebook, Michael Thomas, who happened to be in the process of writing a book about changing your career with God’s guidance. Rather than trying to make your job or career work on your own, you learn to work with God rather. After all it’s His guidance that directs us on the correct paths. This made my life purposeful and meaningful. I didn’t want to take anymore detours on the road I was travelling.

I found my God given purpose when I started reading Michael’s book. This very blog I started is part of my new found purpose and I’m happier than ever. The seed was planted and it is slowly starting to produce fruit. This is just the tip of the iceberg.

The Lord has so much more in store for me. I’m so excited because I know that it pleases the Lord and that my labor is not in vain as I abound in the work of the Lord. I have so many different things I love doing such as painting, playing guitar, surfing, photography, graphic design and of course this blog.

To me using your gifts is a response to God’s glory and obediently using it for His purpose. He is the giver of gifts. All I have to do is to have a willing heart and the Lord will enable me for I cannot do this all in my own strength. God opens doors for us but they don’t stay open forever eventually He will move on and use someone else who is willing to be obedient. Don’t miss God’s calling for your life.

He really does have plans to prosper us, to give us a hope and a future.

He has a master plan for every aspect of our lives. He is in control of it all. We all have something to offer to change the world in a Godly way.

Let Jesus shine through you in all that you do.

We are called to be the salt and the light of the world. Trust God with your career after all it can occupy the most time in our short lives.

I’m sharing his book with you because I know that it will help you to work with God too . You will find a new direction in your life as well as your business career.

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